Wash the dirt

Suppose that two firemen go into a forest to put out a small fire. Afterwards, when they emerge and go over to a stream, the face of one is all smeared with black, while the other man’s face is completely clean.

The question is this : which of the two will wash his face?

That’s a silly question. The one with the dirty face of course.

No, the one with the dirty face will look at the other man and assume that he looks like him. And, vice versa, the man with the clean face will see his colleague covered in grime and say to himself : I must be dirty too. I’d better have a wash. -The Zahir, Paulo Coelho

What happens when you decide to take a brave step and embrace someone of the opposite sex to be your significant other? Do you experience the same thing as above? Do you look at him/her and see your supposed reflection?

What if he/she is a negative influence? What if suddenly your seemingly perfect world becomes off-center? What if your imaan suddenly shows signs of weaknesses?

BUT,

He/she experiences the exact opposite.

He changes for the better. He takes more notice for his religious duties. He becomes more stable.

What do you do?

You sit down in front of the mirror, slap yourself, take wudhu', and sit before Him for answers!

Dont drag yourself down that old road again. Stand your ground and dont take on his negative traits. You may hurt him in the process, but would you rather sink with in the quicksand? Strengthen your imaan, seek His help, and walk hand-in-hand through the obstacles to come out stronger than ever, as humans, as Muslims, and as partners.

Because trust me, love is the only rational act.